While divorce is unpredictable, warning signs of divorce are not. Some people may equate the end of a marriage with arguments, infidelity, or another unforgivable action; however, sometimes the warning signs of divorce are much more subtle. Our Salt Lake City divorce lawyers put their heads together and explored the most common signs a marriage is headed for divorce. They came up with these five signs: lack of communication, physical or emotional cheating, speaking without kindness, future thoughts without your spouse, and fights that do not get resolved.
Lack of Communication
Communication is very important to any relationship. It is how you tell your spouse how you are feeling, what your needs are, and how you would like your partner to treat you. Communicating also fosters a safe environment in a marriage and individuals who are better at communicating often have more compassion in their marriage. While miscommunication will happen in a marriage, it is when you and your spouse no longer wish to work on communicating that this may be a red flag.
Lack of communication could mean that your spouse is hiding something or that he/she just no longer wants to try to make the relationship work.
Physical and/or Emotional Cheating
Is your spouse spending more time with someone of the opposite sex that you have never met? It is common for an individual to turn to someone else if he/she is not getting what he/she wants from the relationship, whether that is physical or emotional. Additionally, any behavior such as staying up late, spending more time away from the house, or being overprotective of a phone or laptop may indicate your spouse is spending time with someone else.
Language Lacks Kindness
How do you and your spouse speak to one another? If your spouse has stopped telling you “I love you” or if you feel like you cannot say those words anymore, then there is a problem. Also, notice if you and your spouse compliment one another and speak nicely to each other. If you both are constantly criticizing each other and being rude, this is concerning.
Thoughts of the Future Without Your Spouse
If you or your spouse think what your future would be like without each other, this may be a sign that divorce is looming. If you cannot imagine your future with your spouse in it, then why stay married? It is healthy to sometimes imagine a life without your spouse, but it is not a good sign if this thought comes up constantly and you find yourself resenting your spouse.
Frequent Fights that Do Not Get Resolved
It is normal for couples to fight. It is not normal for couples to fight constantly without being able to resolve any of their issues. This is a sign that your marriage is not working.
Additionally, if you find yourselves fighting to the point where you have lost all respect for the other person, this is a bad sign. When your arguments lead to full blown fights where you try to hurt one another, this is a problem.
Get a Dedicated Divorce Attorney on Your Side
While these warning signs don’t mean you’re guaranteed to divorce your spouse, they are warning signs of divorce. If you are concerned your marriage is headed for divorce, you aren’t alone. The divorce attorneys at Nelson, Taylor & Associates PLLC can help you put your life back together. They will answer your questions, and try to make the process as easy as possible. Call today to schedule your consultation.